it takes a long time to get to know a person, you could literally spend a lifetime with them and then one day, just out of the blue, be floored by a sudden realisation or revelation.
and people change all the time, in subtle, discreet ways. the facts we come to take for granted are really nothing but assumptions with varying degrees of correlation with reality.
but we are hopelessly relational beings and we will always be trying. with some more than others, certainly, depending on inclination.
that’s why we write, to communicate, to create a narrative coherent to ourselves and hopefully at least a few others.
keep reading, keep writing, life’s not all bad!

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